Insecure attachment and Attachment Disorder is a result of relational trauma during early childhood.
Relational trauma occurs when the emotional and social connection is not consistent or adequate for what the child needs to develop implicit trust in their primary caregiver, especially mother.
Insecure Attachment or Attachment Disorder is a disease of the brain and nervous system with symptoms extending into the physical body since everything is intimately connected.
The primary belief of a person remains “I cannot trust others to help me survive,” and their brain and nervous system get wired for self-defense and reactivity.
Insecure Attachment or Attachment Disorder can happen in any home anywhere in the world.
While the majority, if not all children, with an experience of adoption or foster care have some degree of Insecure Attachment, children coming from good homes with good parents can still have Insecure Attachment or Attachment Disorder.
Biological imbalances are common in children with emotional and behavioral disorders, and this sets them up for not feeling like the emotional and social interactions with their primary caregivers is enough for what they need.
In this sense, it really is the interface between one’s genetics and environment that determines whether a child develops an Attachment Disorder or not.
However, those biological imbalances can be identified and when corrected, will now optimize the child’s biology for healing and attachment. Through a combination of correcting biology and attachment therapeutic parenting, it is my belief that every child and adult with Insecure Attachment or Attachment Disorder can heal and achieve an “Earned Secure Attachment.”
By fixing the biology, we help the whole system feel better, feel less threatened, and thus be less reactive.
For a parent doing the attachment therapeutic parenting, identifying and correcting the biology will make your job easier and allow your child to heal faster.
Using assessments and urine, blood and saliva testing, Dr. Aimie will look for the 4 most common biological imbalances in children with emotional and behavioral disorders: methylation, pyrrole metabolism, essential nutrients and metals, and detoxification.
These tests will also allow us to pick up any other imbalances that are also contributing to the overall impulsivity, internal anxiety, and reactivity.
Dr. Aimie will also measure the effects of trauma and stress on their autonomic nervous system which will help guide the choice of which trauma therapies will be most effective for your child.
Attachment Disorder is a curable disease; don’t give up the fight yet. There is hope and healing!